Reconnect With Your Femininity

We live, in our modern society, a period which is kind of delicate for women, because for one side, women fight for gender equality, so that the differences still existing disappear (salaries, credibility, power, strength, etc.), but on the other side, what a lot of them are using, to fight it, is to adopt “masculine attributes”, which means, by suppressing their femininity. For example, some women, to prove that they are as strong as a man, will develop their muscles like a man, talk like a man, yell like a man, manage like a man, adopting the same attitudes who yet created the problems they now are fighting (search for power, lack of communication, of sensitivity, of listening, ego problems, etc).

 As in some minds, women are still seen as “the weaker sex”, some women, who don’t want to be identified with this idea, hide behind more masculinity, to prove their “power”, and so, reject their femininity (for example by adopting a more masculine way of getting dressed, of talking, of walking, of acting, of thinking, avoiding certain colors, etc).

Besides that, sometimes, femininity, and to be beautiful, sophisticated, can be seen by some women as a “weakness”, because for them, being beautiful means wanting to be liked, to please, and wanting to please, means for them being inferior, and to be willing to put themselves down,  and what they associate to a certain category of women, often called “easy”, “frivolous”, “*itch”, *luts”, and women to blame for the continual tyranny of men.

I had a period in my life, where I used to think this way, and to look down on those women, seing them as a discredit to our gender. But, as a result, I was repressing my own femininity. Because of those “clichés”, that all women suffer from, that, for example, “if you are a smart woman, there’s a high chance you’re not that sexy”, and “if you’re beautiful, there is a high chance your brain doesn’t follow”, women prevent themselves to be who they want to be, by fear of judgment, and by fear of being identified with a cliché they don’t want to be associated with. Some women even come to the point where they totally reject their femininity, by fear of being wrongly judged